obedience
desire to please via submissive means /willingness
In the BDSM lifestyle, submission is considered a most valuable gift that can be given to the person one most wishes to please above all others. It is a way of communicating to this other person that they are trusted and admired above all others. Giving the gift of submission is not a decision to be taken lightly, as becoming a submissive will change one's way of living drastically. Decisions are no longer to be made without the Master, unless the Master allows otherwise. The submissive is to seek only to please their Master, and must trust that their Master will fulfill her own desires and needs as well. This is not a change that will occur overnight. The submissive must learn what pleases her Master, and train herself to do these things instead of what she would normally do for herself. To be considered a good submissive, she must attempt to please her Master by following the rules that have been laid down for her, as well as obeying orders when they are given. All this considered, there are several qualities which are inherent in the nature of a successful submissive, while other qualities may be cultivated.
These are trust in her Master, obedience to her Master, and an overwhelming desire to please her Master by any means necessary.
Readiness, and adaptablity. It is very important for a submissive to be able to go whatever direction her Master leads her. If the day is going in one direction, and something changes suddenly, the submissive must be able to handle this change gracefully and continue in the direction her master leads her. If the submissive is unable to do this, it will cause problems in addition to the ones that have already arisen. This will cause displeasure to the Master who relies on his submissive to be like an ocean to his boat.
The submissive must [have faith in]/[trust] her Master. She must know that her Master loves her and will do everything in his power to make sure that her needs are met, her desires are met, and that she is not overused or mistreated in any way. She must know that her Master will never lose interest or burn out from the effort of training her. She must trust that her Master will never endanger her in any way, and this trust must be well-placed. By placing this trust in her Master, the submissive will be able to disregard her own self-preservation instincts, and enjoy serving her Master in every way, without worry over her own safety, reputation, or desires. A trusting submissive will be more likely to entrust herself to her Master's care in any situation, no matter how frightening, whether it be punishment or overcoming personal fears and obstacles.
A good submissive will be obedient to her Master without question, regardless of how ridiculous the command, how little she desires to obey, or even if she believes she knows a better way to do what is desired of her. This applies to every command, and to disobey or question a command is the ultimate in disrespect. When the submissive obeys her Master when she doesn't feel like it, he notices, and is able to see that she has much respect for him if she is able to make herself do something she does not want to do. If a submissive wishes to question her Master regarding a command, she should do so after obeying, in order also to show respect to her Master. Obedience is how a submissive says "I love and respect you" to her Master, and should never be taken lightly.
A good submissive puts her desire to please her Master above all else. Without this passion, the submissive will follow rules and commands, but go no further (farther?). The relationship between the submissive and the Master will quickly become stagnant, and neither party will be pleased/taken care of. When submissive has a strong desire to please, she opens herself up to explore new opportunities with her Master, as well as learn more about both herself and her Master. She accepts criticism and teaching respectfully, studying herself to try and make herself more desirable for her Master, which in turn will lead her Master to praise her, which will strengthen her passion to please, creating a cycle that will meet the needs and desires of Master and submissive.
These qualities are the core values that help a person become a good submissive. If these do not exist, then the relationship between Master and submissive can not flourish/grow. If these qualities are apparent, they will tend to encourage other admirable qualities in the submissive. It is very important that a submissive understand what she is giving her Master before she commits to submission.
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http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/2379590/domination_and_submission_christmas_pg2.html?cat=74
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