Recognizing your collar (By Relly, August 2011)

Main Entry: collar
Pronunciation: \ˈkä-lər\
Function: noun
Etymology: Middle English coler, from Anglo-French, from Latin collare, from collum neck; akin to Old English heals neck, and probably to Old English hwēol wheel — more at wheel
Date: 14th century
Definition:
1 : a band, strip, or chain worn around the neck: as a : a band that serves to finish or decorate the neckline of a garment b : a short necklace c : a band placed about the neck of an animal d : a part of the harness of draft animals fitted over the shoulders and taking strain when a load is drawn e : an indication of control : a token of subservience f : a protective or supportive device (as a brace or cast) worn around the neck.
Above, you see the definition of the word "Collar". In the BDSM/KINK world, we are quite familiar with the word and all of its wonderful uses (insert diabolical laughter here). However, I would like to take a moment and delve into a different perspective of the word. Let's focus for a moment on the the E: definition shall we?
Collar: an indication of control : a token of subservience
In most cases this word would be a noun, but I would like to take a look at it in a new light. Take the word Collar and look at it not as a noun but rather as an idea. Then it becomes to take a completely different form.
In the BDSM world, the collar is normally given to a submissive by a Dom or Master. Most Doms look at subs with a certain look of piety because the sub will never "out rank" the Dom. This is not ALWAYS the case as there are certain variables such as a switch and DID(MPD) but it is true for the most part. Subs enjoy their collars in the way that it allows them to relax. Their collar allows them to fall into a niche in which they feel comfortable. A collared sub doesn't necessarily have to worry about what they need to do, when they need to do it, or how they need to do it. All they have to worry about is pleasing. This is not new to most of you reading this. I would like to offer you a new perspective on this.
I spent two years in the US Navy. During that time, I learned the meaning of Honor, Courage, Commitment, Discipline, Respect. All these things were morals we lived and served by. I learned the meaning of serving for a cause greater than myself. I learned the ART of leading poeple. This prepared me for My Wife and lifetime sub. I learned submission in the military. I learned Dominance in the military. I wore my "collar" well.
After I got out of the Navy, I put on another collar; Marriage. This collar is a little different than the military. For me, it's not like the contract I signed with the Navy. It's not something that you can take off when you need a break. It is a full time, constant collar. This "collar" is fun, sucks, incredibly easy, and insanely hard all at once.I wear no collar yet I say that I enjoy the feel of the collar around my neck. I am the Dom in the relationship yet I bow to the whip of marriage. We all have our collars. What is yours?
When you think of collars in the ideal form rather than physical, you can do a better job of serving. I SERVE my wife better when I "feel" and RECOGNIZE my collar. I charge you to RECOGNIZE your collar! It's not just a collar to your Dom. It's your collar to life. When you see your collar you feel better equipped to serve in your everyday life. You will see a greater output in the effectiveness of the things you do. Your job will be better, your marriage/relationships will improve, and EVEN your family relations will improve! See, feel, and recognize your collars!
Everyone please comment on your newly found/recognized collars.
We all have our collars. Wear your collars well,
Relly