Response to" bitching about how hard life is, AKA teen angst"

The bathtub already drained slowly. now it takes 30 minutes to drain after a 20 minute shower.

I had already told her to clean the mop after mopping. I showed her how to do it 2 times, so I know I've told her at least 3.

I told her where the mop is supposed to go after it has been drained.
The mop ended up in the kitchen, twice. In the sink twice. Random places several times. 
Then, when she did put the mop beside the toilet where I've told her it goes multiple times, she didn't bother to make sure it was clean, and there were some pretty nasty bugs as well as flies because she didn't follow orders. 

I've rinsed the mop behind her at least 3 times without saying anything, but this time I was upset. So Master and I discussed what to do about it. He said we would tell her exactly what we wanted, write it down, type it out, and have her sign it. Then, He said to put the mop outside and she could clean it when she got home from work. He and I had been arguing, so He was outside and didn't talk to her (Blink was out when she came home, and i think she got offended because I didn't speak to her, but blink doesn't talk) about it until the next morning. We (I went, too) ended up being late to His Dr appointment because He took the time to fully explain what was expected of her, especially regarding the mop before we left. 


We got home and everything was great and He gave both of us treats. Then I went to take a shower... and the bathtub looked like someone had bathed a homeless guy in it. The whole tub was coated in dirt. I spent at least 10 minutes trying to get all the dirt to drain, as well as a scrub brush and a spray cleaner to get it unstuck, even though I knew it was from the mop (that Master told her to wash in the sink!) because I wanted to keep the peace. 

It makes me so angry, because I feel like I have to go behind her and clean up after her every time I ask her to do something! If I ask her to wash clothes, I have to empty the lint trap. If I ask her to do dishes, I have to put the rag in the dirty clothes and make sure she has a clean one before she starts, or she'll wash the dishes with a rag that has been soured for 3 days. If I tell her to "make sure you X before you move on to the next thing" she nods, agrees, and then immediately forgets to do it.

None of this would have been a big deal, and she wouldn't be having such a hard time, if she would follow the instructions given to her instead of doing everything her way every time she's told to do something.

What I want her to learn from this is that we expect her to do it right the first time, or else she'll have to 1) put up with the consequences of doing it wrong, and 2) have to redo it or fix it later.It's better to take longer doing something and make sure you do it right than to cut corners and have a hubcap fall off later. I learned this at an early age, and I learned it here:  
 Colossians 3:23
And whatever you do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not to men;

When I do something, anything, I'm doing it for God. He doesn't want me to hurry up and finish so I can go take a nap before lunch! He wants me to do it right so I can take pride in my work. He knows my intentions, and He doesn't accept anything less than my best. He doesn't expect perfect, but He does expect me to try my hardest. (The "He" here is referring to God.)

 I understand that Jessi doesn't necessarily see this my way, but it is important that she see why it is such a strong principal in my life, and why I'm so strict about it. 


Rinsing the Mop

1. Fill sink with hot but not scalding water.
2. Place mop in water.
3. Move mop in a plunger motion until water is dirty. 
4. Drain water from sink. 
5. Repeat steps One through Four until water in sink remains clean.
6. Allow mop to drain in sink for a maximum of 15 minutes
7. Place mop beside toilet

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Even with everything that's been going on, I've been so proud of her, because she's been coping well every time He tells her something. She hasn't been getting upset and shutting down, she's continued functioning and dealt with the issue when it came up.

AND THEN!!!
There was another opportunity for her to behave well!
Major, jessi, and I went out to the flea market. Master had work (He came home early today because He had a seizure at work, [it's been bad all day] BTW just so that you are fully in the loop here about why we're not going home like you want, j) and so it was another opportunity for her to show that she was learning, and trying and could be obedient.
and she quit playing with us. Major and I were both in a good mood and playing and picking and such, and she stayed very quiet, several paces behind us the whole time (I stayed close to major a lot because I was having problems hearing what he said [I've been sick, it's sinuses and congestion, which affects hearing] and Jessi wasn't really talking, so staying near her would have been pointless). At the restaraunt she refused to do something because it wasn't fair. It wasn't about it being fair anymore, it was about her obeying what I told her to do repeatedly. Also, she made various excuses ranging from "I can't think of anything" to "It's not fair and I refuse" which pretty much spells out that she didn't want to, rather than telling me she actually believed it wasn't fair.
Questioning someone is questioning no matter whether it is "important" (importance is relative!) or not... and BTW if it was important, she would have said, "I questioned her because it was important!"
 she never tried to call shotgun... and i don't know if she thinks there's a rule about this (the rule is she can't call shotgun in Master's car, because she said she gets to ride shotgun in her car always since it's her car. If she get's a permanent shotgun in one specific vehicle, Master says that it's fair that I should get a permanent shotgun in our car.) but it was major's car, and I have no problem riding in the back if she actually plays the shotgun game with me. 


This didn't ruin the whole trip out with Major, but it really put a damper on things because I feel like she does these things out of spite to be disrespectful since "Master isn't here, so you can't make me do it"

I've been patient so far. It's starting to run out, and when I start discipline for disrespect, she's really going to start having a rough time of it.
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OH! I haven't had a "decent scene with Master" since before Jessi moved in! Every time He wants to scene with me, I tell Him that she needs it more than I do, that it will help her more than it will help me, she needs the pain more often, and I know she uses it for that a lot... but I really miss scening with Him, too.