Thinking about posting this on fet. You know where it's coming from. Enjoy the rant.

Being a slave. 

Being a submissive. 

Being in a successful relationship.

Fix yourself first.

Stop looking for someone else (dom or sub or slave or kinky whatever) to FIX you. If you are flawed, incomplete,  broken, that's OK. But if you expect someone to swoop in and wave a magic wand and you will be perfect with them always and never disagree, and if you do disagree you will show them how they are wrong or pout until they do what you want.... just STOP.
If you are going through serial relationships, one after the other, with the same type of person, the same expectations, and every single one ends in heartbreak and you're screaming to the void WHY ME, WILL NO ONE EVER LOVE ME, WHY WAS THIS PERSON (who I was screaming from the rooftops about as the most awesome shiny ever ten minutes ago) SUCH AN ASSHOLE TO DUMP POOR PITIFUL FLAWLESS ME?  Maybe take a step back and work on yourself for a minute.

When you tell someone to stop being so selfish, it's usually because you're trying to be selfish.

Stop asking why they didn't do enough for you. Ask what you did for them. No really. Think about it. What did you do for them? Did you throw a fit because they didn't appreciate you enough? Did you watch them like a student to see which things made them smile, which things made them beam with pride to be with you, and then do THOSE things? Or did you try to do YOUR thing and expect them to just love that? Did you ignore the requests they made of you and say "NO, THIS is how I'll show you I love you, that thing YOU WANT is just stupid" ?

Did you clearly ask for the things you actually wanted and needed, or did you expect your partner to mindread? Yes, sometimes it's almost impossible to communicate a need, but that's on you. Did they do a lot of the things you wanted, but you expected them to do literally every thing you came up with, while you sat there giving nothing back, not even a smile or a thank you or a spanking?

This writing is not about how THEY should change to take care of you.  This writing is a giant fucking mirror for people who bitch about how their relationship never works out, written with love from someone who has been in a relationship for almost ten years. Yes, I know you can't see the love right now, but sometimes love is giving the person you care about a giant kick in the ass and a reminder of their responsibilities.

(Obviously I'm not perfect. I'm working on myself, always am. These are some things I've noticed, some things I've learned the hard way; no I won't tell you which is which, lol. But hey maybe one line of this will resound with someone who needs it. And if so, maybe some of the struggles I've been through will be that much more worth it.)

Much love.