Feminism

I realized a lot of my fantasies start with a punishment. I made a mistake, that caused my now suffering and pain, I deserve the thing happening to me. Now, I don't really believe that I deserve to be brutally anally raped for leaving hair in the shower or overcooking the meatloaf, and it's a play turn on for me because I enjoy the idea of consensual nonconsent and that is a good way, in my mind, to start a scene- to make up some reason for me to be "punished" aka, rough or painful sex.

But then, I started noticing that this is how every porn starts. Now listen, because this is important. Porn starts with a woman making a mistake, and she is punished (she "deserves it") with sex. I see a lot of women talking about rape culture and how people are always saying that if a woman gets raped she must have caused it in some way, and that woman have to watch what they do, etc... And I didn't see that in my daily life, so I didn't see that it made any sense. Until porn.  Now, men watch a lot of porn. Women, ehh, usually not so much. And there hasn't been a whole lot of writing about this, at least I haven't seen any. But think about this. My typical rape fantasy and the typical male porn start the same way. 

Men are being spoon fed that if a woman gives you an opening, or you can find an excuse, it's ok to pressure or manipulate her to have sex.   

Just once I'd like to see a porn where she says, no, not my ass... Yet. And he says ok and they go back to doggy style for a bit and then she says ooooooh yeah ok put it in my ass. 

Or

Why, what did I do? I'm sorry!    Nothing, it's not your fault, you were just unlucky today.  Ensuing rape scene.